In reading about your feminist ideals in your other articles, I think you may be open to considering another perspective, even if it is a hard pill to swallow:

Could it be that your friends are actually trying desperately (and failing) to get you to (A) acknowledge your own fair skin priveledge and (B) to support them in their daily battle against dark-skin discrimination and prejudice?

Skin tone bias, also known as colorism or shadism, is prejudice and discrimination based on skin color, often resulting in traumatic experiences and negative outcomes for people — especially women — with darker skin.

Colorism/shadism is historically associated with the lasting impacts of British/Euroaristocratic colonialism and centuries long whitewashing of beauty standards throughout the world.

Learn More about Discrimination based in Skin Color via Wikipedia https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discrimination_based_on_skin_color

Of course, colorism/shadism is a thing everywhere, but here a few resources about colourism in India specially:

Colour me right: It’s time to end colourism in India https://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/opinion/colour-time-colourism-india-180906101053056.html

Un-Fair And Not So Lovely: Capitalism And Colourism In India https://feminisminindia.com/2018/08/28/capitalism-colourism-india/

India Debates Skin-Tone Bias as Beauty Companies Alter Ads https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/28/world/asia/india-skin-color-unilever.html

I hope these articles help you to better understand what your friends may be dealing with.

While all women are fighting for gender equality and gender equity, the fight is probably much harder for your friends than it is for you.

That may be what they mean when they say things like “easy for you to say with your fair skin.”

Indeed, fair skin comes with many advantages.

However, if the benefits of fairer skin are not apparent to you, perhaps you can think of some ways you may have benefitted from not having darker skin??

Just something to think about.

Hope this helps!

Queer Black Woman w/ Disabilities and Indigenous Roots | Health educator & former healer now healing herself | Quora @April-M-Hamm | LinkedIn @April-Hamm #WEOC

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