The lived experiences of people who are not you are not open for disagreement. That’s called gaslighting. It says to me and to the author and to readers who share our collective worldview that you do not value or respect our own views of our experiences. Not only that, but becausr there is a great deal of existing scholarship in this area, it tells us that you are not informed on current consensus.
You’re welcome to view the world through whatever lens allows you to sleep well at night — the skin you’re in comes with that priveledge.
However, you cannot blame a fish for failing to climbing a tree and expect the fish to agree with you.